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Things To Consider When Discussing Salvation & Baptism With Children

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2 Timothy 3:14-15 “But as for you, continue in what you have learned and have firmly believed, knowing from whom you learned it 15 and how from childhood you have been acquainted with the sacred writings, which are able to make you wise for salvation through faith in Christ Jesus.”

As a Children’s Pastor it is my highest honor and privilege to sit down and talk to a child about salvation and/or baptism. Most of the time these conversations to do not begin with talking with me, instead it is the culmination of many talks between parents, teachers, and others who have invested time, love, and prayer into the lives of these children.

In the midst of these conversations with parents and children I have noticed several recurring issues regarding salvation and baptism. Often times parents will encounter difficulty in how they explain certain parts of the gospel, or will grow frustrated in how their children seem to be responding (or not responding) to their efforts.

The following are several things to consider when talking with children about the gospel, salvation, and baptism.

1. Concrete v. Abstract Language. It is a physiological development of the mind to move from concrete to abstract understanding of life. In order for a small child to understand the gospel, it has to be explained in a way that is age appropriate for them.

For example, for a five year old when he hears, “ask Jesus into your heart,” he worries if it will hurt to have a tiny man named Jesus living in his chest cavity. He does not understand that this is not what you intended. So consider the age of those you are sharing with and take into account of their age and development levels. Parents shouldn’t worry if their child don’t fully understand the gospel in one sitting. Learning and understanding is cyclical. Tell them, explain it, then do it again, and again, and again. Eventually, it will “click” in their brains and they will understand. But don’t shortcut the process of the understanding moving from their brains to their hearts.

2. Draw pictures. Let them “see” what you are talking about. One of the best tools that I have discovered when talking with children is to draw things out as I am talking. You could also get the children to draw them with you as you are talking.

3. Avoid “Christianese.” Explain your terms as you us them and avoid unnecessarily technical words. Adults tend to use words like “the prayer,” “ask Jesus into your heart,” “reconciliation,” “justification,” “repentance,” etc. If they are saved, what are they saved from? Who is Jesus, the Holy Spirit, the Father, etc. Remember that you are talking with children not seminary professors.

4. Separate salvation from baptism. These are two separate events in the life of the believer but children tend to lump them together. There have been many children that I have talked with that say, “I want to be baptized so that I can go to heaven” (or something close to this phrase).

Children tend to confuse and inward decision with an outward expression. “walking the aisle,” or “going forward” is not salvation or a decision to place their faith in Christ. These are outward expressions of a decision that has already been made in the heart.

5. Determine Motive (as best you can). Parents have more insight into their child’s lives than any other person. Children naturally want to please their parents or adults, so it may be helpful to get the opinion of another mature believer who may have a relationship with the child. Also, be aware of events surrounding the child’s life that may influence them (like did they see their friend or sibling baptized last Sunday, and now they want to as well).

When you feel comfortable that the child is seeking to please Christ and no one else, then they are ready to follow in baptism. Of course there are some over zealous parents who are pushing their children to make a decision they are not ready for, but this is where your church family comes in and helps to balance that zeal with wisdom.

6. Ask Open Ended Questions. These types of questions require explanation, not simply yes or no answers.

“Would you like to go to heaven?” verses “How does a person go to heaven?”

8. Avoid Group Decision Making. Ok, everybody let’s “say the prayer.” “Now if you want to go to heaven then raise your hand.” The best way to counsel children with regard to salvation and baptism is one-on-one. There are many unscrupulous mission groups out there that are more concerned about reporting how many children “prayed to receive Christ,” than their actual spiritual development.

You may have a person sharing the gospel from a stage to a large group, but there should be counselors who can speak with those children who would like to discuss salvation further one-on-one.

 

Click here for a discussion of the Baptist concept of “Age of Accountability.”

 

A Discussion of Baptism (part two)

Modes of Baptism

Does it really matter if one is immersed, sprinkled, washed, effusion (pouring), etc.? These are referred to as the modes of baptism.  The word given in the Bible for baptism is the Greek baptizo, which means “to dip under repeatedly, to immerse, to submerge.”[1] To immerse is the primary meaning of the Greek word baptizo.  Also, the other referenced modes of baptism mentioned had Greek words to reference them (sprinkling; rantidzo, pouring; epicheo and prochusis) but they were never used in discussion of baptism (only baptizo).

Immersion best pictures the significance of baptism, which is death to the old life and resurrection to the new (Romans 6:1-4). Immersion was the universal practice of the early church and every instance in the New Testament either demands or permits it.

There are also extra-biblical references to baptism that are helpful in determining the proper mode of baptism. In the Didache (an early form of catechism around AD 100) it says,

“And concerning baptism, baptize this way: having first said all these things, baptize into the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit, in living water. But if you have no living water, baptize into other water; and if you cannot do so in cold water, do so in warm. But if you have neither, pour out water three times upon the head into the name of Father, and Son and Holy Spirit. But before the baptism let the baptizer fast, and the baptized, and whoever else can; but you shall order the baptized to fast one or two days before.”[2]

From this text one can gather that early believers expected baptism, and it was preferably by immersion. However, we can also see how the early church began to add to the canon of Scripture (i.e. fasting before baptism as a requirement, baptism in living water, cold water, etc.).

There are secondary modes, referenced by other early extra-biblical sources, used (such as pouring) but were used only when immersion was not possible. In such cases, such as sick people, pouring was called “clinical baptism.” Baptism in not part of a believer obtaining salvation or the forgiveness of sin, that only comes through faith in Christ and His death on the cross.

Baptism follows one’s acceptance of Christ’s gift of salvation as an outward act of obedience to what has transpired inside his soul. So the order of importance to the subject of baptism is (1) saving genuine faith in Christ alone for salvation (2) a proper understanding of the symbolic meaning of baptism and a profession of Christ (3) baptism (4) mode of baptism – preferably by immersion (5) membership into a local church.

When is a Child Ready for Baptism?

In the eleventh chapter of second Samuel is the story of David and how he has fathered a child with Bathsheba, and killed her husband. Because of this sin, God tells David through the prophet Samuel that He is going to take the child.

David then begins to pray and fast in hopes of changing the Lord’s mind, but eventually the child dies, and he responds to the servants concern about his drastic change in behavior from mourning to normalcy by saying in verse twenty-three, “But now he is dead. Why should I fast? Can I bring him back again? I shall go to him, but he will not return to me.” David is stating here that small children who are too young to make professions of faith or have the cognitive ability to understand their depravity and receive the gospel go to heaven. He says that he will one day “go to him.”

The child was too young to make a decision of faith in God, and yet as a son of Adam he was “born in sin.”[3] So he has the inherited sin nature from Adam, and did not express his faith in a coming Messiah. Yet, David says that he will see his son again. So Baptists have explained this passage as there is an “age of accountability,” where children develop cognitively, emotionally, and physically to such a point that they are able to understand their own sin, their lostness, and the gospel. David’s son was shown grace from God that we are not fully able to explain this side of heaven. So a child is ready for baptism once they understand these things, have genuinely received Christ as their Savior, and then follow of their own volition the teaching of Christ to be baptized.


[1] Wayne Grudem, Bible Doctrine (Grand Rapids, Michigan; Zondervan, 1999), 377.

[2] The Didache, Early Christians, The Twelve Apostles, Chapter 7.

[3] Romans 5:12ff.

A Discussion of Baptism (part one)

Baptism in General

Baptism is proclaimed by Christ in Matthew 28:19-20.  Also known as the Great Commission, this passage is missiological, soteriological, ecclesiological, and Christological. Baptism is apart of the Great Commission, but not technically part of the gospel.[1]

It was practiced by the early church (Acts 2:38; 41, 8:12-13, 36, 38; 9:18; 10:47-48; 16:15, 33; 18:8; 19:5) There seems to be a clear expectation that a believer would follow in baptism; to put it off or simply not do it, is not apart of the early church’s understanding.

According to Romans 6 it identifies the believer with Christ. Theologically, baptism may be defined as an act of association or identification with someone, some group, some message, or some event. Baptism into the Greek mystery religions associated the initiates with that religion.  Jewish proselyte baptism associated the proselyte with Judaism.

John the Baptist’s baptism associated his followers with his message of righteousness.[2] The mark that signified one’s entrance into the kingdom of God was the belief in salvation through Christ alone and submission to Christ’s command to baptism.  It indicated a heart change based upon repentance of sin.

Therefore, baptism in the Christian orthodoxy is identification with Jesus Christ. The initiate is indicating that they are entering the realm of Christ’s lordship and power.  Baptism is the sign of the working of the gospel in which God unites the believer to Himself through Christ, and the believer testifies to the subjective reality of that union in his life.[3] Baptism into Christ and identification with Him, is also identification with His body, the church.

Water baptism is symbolic, where the water represents the grave. Believers are buried (when they go under the water) with Christ, and raised again into new life (symbolically by coming up put of the water).  Driscoll says, “In water baptism, Christians are immersed in water, which identifies them with the death and burial of Jesus in their place for their sins. Coming up out of the water identifies them with the resurrection of Jesus for their salvation and new life empowered by the Holy Spirit. Altogether, baptism identifies a Christians with Jesus, the universal church, and the local church.”[4]

It is also commanded by Christ and the early apostles to be done by all Christians as an initial act of discipleship.[5] This is the first step of obedience that a new believer takes in their walk with Christ. If they are not willing to follow this initial command to be baptized, there is serious concern as to their obedience in other areas or commands of Christ. So, for a church that exercises church discipline on its members[6] for a person to join a church, and then refuse to obey Christ (and the teachings of it’s leaders/elders) then discipline would have to be executed immediately upon the new member.

If one understands the symbolism of baptism, and understands the command of Christ to be baptized, why would a person who purports to be a follower of Christ refuse to follow in baptism except as an act of disobedience? The church is to be made up of regenerate followers of Christ. Baptism is a base line requirement of obedience and church membership. It is also a time of publically displaying what has happened inwardly. John Hammet says, “Baptism is best understood as a rite of commitment. It I the ordained occasion when one confesses that she or he has made a faith commitment to Christ.”[7]

Baptism and Children

Theologically known as pedobaptism (pedo means child), Baptist have traditionally opposed the practice of infant baptism because of their belief, that baptism is conditioned on an active faith revealing itself in a creditable profession (credobaptism – credo, means “I believe”).[8] The Bible points to faith as a prerequisite for baptism, Mark 16:16; Acts 10:44-48, 16:14, 15, 31, 34.  So in order to faithfully follow in baptism, one should be able to show that they believe in Christ and His substitutionary death on the cross.

If baptism is an initiatory rite, it must only be performed on those who have exercised faith in Christ and thus have been made members of God’s family. There is also no evidence of the practice of infant baptism either by Jews or Christians in apostolic times. So, if one were a proponent of credobaptism, then this would naturally exclude those not capable to understanding or expressing their faith in Christ (i.e. infants, small children, and those with severe special needs).

Rebaptism

What about rebaptism? There is one clear example in the New Testament of such, and that is of the baptized disciples of John the Baptist who were later baptized again with Christian baptism after hearing and responding to the Christian message as preached to them by Paul (Acts 19:17). This incident shows that John the Baptists baptism and Christian baptism were not the same.

Even though they had been baptized before, when he becomes a believer in Christ he should be baptized again as a testimony of his identification with the new message and community. Therefore, if a person (for the first time) comes to believe in Christ, but has been baptized earlier in their life, they should be baptized again. Their previous baptism was not one of identification with Christ as the only means of salvation, but was for some other reason.


[1] Daniel Akin, Lecture Notes from Systematic Theology (SEBTS, 2000) 90-91.

[2] John the Baptist seems to be the first person to baptize other people. Typically those following in baptism would baptize themselves.

[3] Akin, Ibid.

[4] Mark Driscoll, Doctrine (Wheaton, Illinios; Crossway, 2010), 325.

[5] Matt. 28:19; Acts 2:38

[6] Matt. 18.

[7] John S Hammett, Biblical Foundations for Baptist Churches, A Contemporary Ecclesiology (Grand Rapids, Michigan; Kregal, 2005) 267.

[8] Mark Driscoll and Gerry Breshears, Vintage Church (Wheaton, Illinois; Crossway), 115.

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