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Things To Consider When Discussing Salvation & Baptism With Children

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2 Timothy 3:14-15 “But as for you, continue in what you have learned and have firmly believed, knowing from whom you learned it 15 and how from childhood you have been acquainted with the sacred writings, which are able to make you wise for salvation through faith in Christ Jesus.”

As a Children’s Pastor it is my highest honor and privilege to sit down and talk to a child about salvation and/or baptism. Most of the time these conversations to do not begin with talking with me, instead it is the culmination of many talks between parents, teachers, and others who have invested time, love, and prayer into the lives of these children.

In the midst of these conversations with parents and children I have noticed several recurring issues regarding salvation and baptism. Often times parents will encounter difficulty in how they explain certain parts of the gospel, or will grow frustrated in how their children seem to be responding (or not responding) to their efforts.

The following are several things to consider when talking with children about the gospel, salvation, and baptism.

1. Concrete v. Abstract Language. It is a physiological development of the mind to move from concrete to abstract understanding of life. In order for a small child to understand the gospel, it has to be explained in a way that is age appropriate for them.

For example, for a five year old when he hears, “ask Jesus into your heart,” he worries if it will hurt to have a tiny man named Jesus living in his chest cavity. He does not understand that this is not what you intended. So consider the age of those you are sharing with and take into account of their age and development levels. Parents shouldn’t worry if their child don’t fully understand the gospel in one sitting. Learning and understanding is cyclical. Tell them, explain it, then do it again, and again, and again. Eventually, it will “click” in their brains and they will understand. But don’t shortcut the process of the understanding moving from their brains to their hearts.

2. Draw pictures. Let them “see” what you are talking about. One of the best tools that I have discovered when talking with children is to draw things out as I am talking. You could also get the children to draw them with you as you are talking.

3. Avoid “Christianese.” Explain your terms as you us them and avoid unnecessarily technical words. Adults tend to use words like “the prayer,” “ask Jesus into your heart,” “reconciliation,” “justification,” “repentance,” etc. If they are saved, what are they saved from? Who is Jesus, the Holy Spirit, the Father, etc. Remember that you are talking with children not seminary professors.

4. Separate salvation from baptism. These are two separate events in the life of the believer but children tend to lump them together. There have been many children that I have talked with that say, “I want to be baptized so that I can go to heaven” (or something close to this phrase).

Children tend to confuse and inward decision with an outward expression. “walking the aisle,” or “going forward” is not salvation or a decision to place their faith in Christ. These are outward expressions of a decision that has already been made in the heart.

5. Determine Motive (as best you can). Parents have more insight into their child’s lives than any other person. Children naturally want to please their parents or adults, so it may be helpful to get the opinion of another mature believer who may have a relationship with the child. Also, be aware of events surrounding the child’s life that may influence them (like did they see their friend or sibling baptized last Sunday, and now they want to as well).

When you feel comfortable that the child is seeking to please Christ and no one else, then they are ready to follow in baptism. Of course there are some over zealous parents who are pushing their children to make a decision they are not ready for, but this is where your church family comes in and helps to balance that zeal with wisdom.

6. Ask Open Ended Questions. These types of questions require explanation, not simply yes or no answers.

“Would you like to go to heaven?” verses “How does a person go to heaven?”

8. Avoid Group Decision Making. Ok, everybody let’s “say the prayer.” “Now if you want to go to heaven then raise your hand.” The best way to counsel children with regard to salvation and baptism is one-on-one. There are many unscrupulous mission groups out there that are more concerned about reporting how many children “prayed to receive Christ,” than their actual spiritual development.

You may have a person sharing the gospel from a stage to a large group, but there should be counselors who can speak with those children who would like to discuss salvation further one-on-one.

 

Click here for a discussion of the Baptist concept of “Age of Accountability.”

 

Walking the Dark Path; Proverbs 4:18-19, 27

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When I was a young teen I had a group of guys that I camped with regularly. We would often set up camp, wait for darkness to settle like the dew, and then we would set out on an adventure. To be less conspicuous (and because we did not know where we were going), we did not use flashlights. Our goal was to discover things in the darkness. But looking back on these times we honestly did not travel very far and we did not discover very much. We often got frustrated with each other because tree limbs would smack us in the face when the guy in front of us would let it go. And we would all eventually hit our shins on downed tree limbs of stumps. We mistook pain and lack of direction for adventure and freedom. It is only by God’s grace that we didn’t step on a rattle snake.

Solomon uses walking in darkness as a metaphor of life. Having traveled many miles in darkness it hit close to home. I much prefer to travel life on a path that leads somewhere, than in a thick forest that only leads to heartache and being lost.

Wisdom and insight are given as something a father strongly desires for his son/child to value and search for. He then compares those that lack wisdom as being wicked or evil because they value and desire doing harm to others or simply make foolish decisions. In verses 18 &19 this comparison is interrupted with “but the path (life) of the righteous.”

Solomon Teaches His Son

Proverbs 4:18-19, 27

“But the path of the righteous is like the light of dawn, which shines brighter and brighter until full day. 19 The way of the wicked is like deep darkness; they do not know over what they stumble . . . 26 Ponder the path of your feet; then all your ways will be sure. 27 Do not swerve to the right or to the left; turn your foot away from evil.”

The author while explaining this concept to his son uses simile. It is a grammatical tool which uses “like or as” in seeking to explain a point by giving a comparison to something else. In this comparison of light and darkness we see:

The path of the righteous is (like)

  • Light of dawn
  • Brighter and brighter
  • Until full day

As the righteous person continues down the path and as time passes he “sees” better and better. (wisdom)

The path/way of the wicked is (like)

  • Deep darkness
  • Stumbling
  • Lack of wisdom (They do not know what they are stumbling over)

Unrighteous people as they continue in their way of life are never able to “see” so they never improve and only continue in darkness. Then in verse 27, because the righteous man can see his path (better and better), he is to ponder as he walks the path before him. He is not to ponder his steps (individual decisions) but the path before him (a way of life). We are told then that all one’s ways will be sure because they have remained on the path and not swerved away toward evil.

One’s ability to correctly choose is rooted in one’s level of wisdom and ability to see. You have to think and see that there are righteous things/actions and that others are evil, and then make a decision. If one chooses the righteous path then they possess wisdom.

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How Do You Obtain Wisdom?

The Bible teaches that we are born into sin and are depraved. We have a sin nature that is bent away from following the Lord. Essentially we are born into darkness. You will always walk in darkness until you die from injuries (from your stumbling around in the darkness of life), or you stumble onto the righteous path. But would you even know it since you lack wisdom and can’t see it for what it is. Then you are destined to stumble back across the righteous path back into the dark forest.

God in His mercy will reveal His path to us if we seek Him. Psalm 25:4-5 “Make me to know your ways, O Lord; teach me your paths. 5 Lead me in your truth and teach me, for you are the God of my salvation; for you I wait all the day long.”

Can a person who has no vision, who is walking in darkness, ever get on the path? This is why we were given His Word. Psalm 119:105 “Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light to my path.” When we open it’s pages it’s words become the light for our darkened soul. It gives light for our walk in this life.

When we take our first steps in righteousness we begin to see the first light of the dawn. Psalm 23:3 “He restores my soul. He leads me in paths of righteousness for his name’s sake.”

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The Resurrection

Sunrise PathThe account of Jesus’ crucifixion ends with the setting of the sun and darkness of death. But with the dawn comes victory over death and the ability to see the place where Jesus’ body once was laid. The angels said, “He is not here, He is risen.” We have the ability to see the path in this life only because of Jesus’ conquering death and darkness for us, on our behalf. He has provided the only way to escape darkness and understand the light. Without Him, we would be stumbling around in darkness, never knowing that life could be filled with light, love, abundance, and peace. He gives us sight. We can see the sunrise.

Do you know Him today? Can you see the light or do you feel consumed by the darkness? We have all walked the dark path, but things can be different.

John 3:16-17 “For God so loved the world,that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life. 17 For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but in order that the world might be saved through him.”

If you want to talk about this further or have questions, please e-mail me at drew@fbcvaldosta.org

 

 

 

 

 

Six Warnings To Keep Your Church From Being Ripped Apart; Jude 11-13

sheep wolfIf you are a member of a church, or church leader please read this carefully. Your church’s life may depend upon it. Jude in the opening of the chapter discusses false teachers or believers and what they are like; he says:

11 Woe to them! For they walked in the way of Cain [Genesis 4:5-8] and abandoned themselves for the sake of gain to Balaam’s error [Numbers 22:5-7; 2 Peter 2:15] and perished in Korah’s rebellion [Numbers 16:1-3, 31-35]. 12 These are hidden reefs at your love feasts, as they feast with you without fear, shepherds feeding themselves; waterless clouds, swept along by winds; fruitless trees in late autumn, twice dead, uprooted; 13 wild waves of the sea, casting up the foam of their own shame; wandering stars, for whom the gloom of utter darkness has been reserved forever.

Cain – An example of one who took spiritual shortcuts

In warning the church about false teachers Jude gives examples of what their leadership is like. The first example is Cain. He tried to present an inferior offering to the Lord, and he killed his brother because of his anger resulting from its’ rejection. He wanted to be able to approach God as he desired, not according to what was required by God. He wanted to take spiritual shortcuts, or shape the worship of God to his own comfort and desires.

Balaam – An example of one who desired to shape God’s will for a profit

Balaam spoke with God and was told not to curse God’s people. After being told not curse “the blessed” people, he kept asking God, “what to say.” He wanted financial gain on the back of the sacred Word of God. He desired to forgo the clear desire of the Lord in order to make money. Balaam would say, “keep asking and pushing until you get the answer that you want.”

This is simple greed. The Lord’s will cannot be bought, his favor is not for sale. There will be people in the life of a church who use their tithe as a negotiating chip. If they don’t like a decision or direction from the leadership in the church they will simply stop giving, or give to a specific “designated fund” so that it can’t be used as the leadership is suggesting.  There are also those in leadership who are in it for the money and will forgo the will of the Lord in order to get a paycheck (or a raise).

Korah – An example of one who wanted to run the church

Korah grumbled and led a rebellion against Moses and Aaron; he rebelled against those whom God has chosen as leaders. He did not want to do what God had directed for them to do. They wanted to be able to choose their role in the congregation – whereas God chooses and directs His church. Korah had given over to his pride.

This one is not as obvious as the previous two. This person feels they have certain rights that are not being met (not visited enough while they were in the hospital, feels slighted in some way, their suggestion was not followed, hurt feelings, etc.). So in their minds, they feel they have a right or even direction from the Lord to do something about the current leadership.

This typically involves conversations in the parking lot after church, during Sunday School class, or over coffee in some local eating establishment. The conversation usually has the phrase, “I have been at _______ for _____ years and I love my church.” But (insert leaders name) has to go because (insert exaggerated story ). We need someone who actually loves the church.” This is nothing short of what Korah was doing to Moses. It is evil and causes great damage to the bride of Christ.

If you ever feel slighted or your feelings are hurt by a church leader then read this verse. Matthew 18:15 “If your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault, between you and him alone. If he listens to you, you have gained your brother.” You are instructed by Jesus to go and talk to the person. There is no need to go to anyone else.

There is no need to “seek wisdom” from other believers – which if we were honest is really just a grip session and venting. If the church would follow this teaching of Christ, there would be so many restored relationships and love one-for-another. Sadly, far too many church people just blast and gripe to anyone who will listen to them and completely destroy a person’s reputation in a church before the accused even knows about it. The that leader is supposed to love the person who just tried to destroy them?

Then from these three examples of men who were the personification of false teachers come six natural metaphors:

1. “These are hidden reefs at your love feasts, as they feast with you without fear, . . .” With a hidden reef, the sailor doesn’t see the danger below the surface until to is too late and the ship is damaged or sunk. The love feasts that is referenced here is the Lord’s Supper. They appear to be participating and active Christians, but when you get too close they destroy you. All is not as it seems with these individuals, and they seek to get closer and closer into the trust and love of the church.

They have no fear of the Lord to act one way in the world while separated from the congregation, and then to appear righteous at the Lord’s Table when they “worship” with other believers. This duplicity and lack of integrity will rip a congregation to pieces if they hold a leadership position (and even members should be held to an established righteous standard).

2. “. . . shepherds feeding themselves . . .” These are shepherds who do not take care of the flock. They look after themselves and use their position to better themselves not in ministering to others.

3. “. . . waterless clouds, swept along by winds; . . .” In Jude’s region it is typically dry and dusty most of the time. So when the people see the gathering of a storm cloud there is great anticipation of things cooling down, plants being watered (perhaps even saved from drought), and times of refreshing.

They appear to give relief and instill within the people a sense of (false) hope but they are empty. In the end their promises and “vision” is nothing more than an empty cloud. Instead of hearing from the Lord and being given vision from Him they are directed by events, others actions, and are not anchored to one place. So when the heat gets too hot, they simply blow on to the next town.

4. “. . . fruitless trees in late autumn, twice dead, uprooted; . . .” In this leader there is no real evidence of God’s working in their life. They look like a Christian, but at the end of each season of their life there simply is no fruit. Business and action is not fruit. It is easy to have the appearance of being busy and filling a calendar with “stuff.” Don’t confuse activity with fruit. Just because you go to the gym and dress the part does not mean that you actually work out and see change. Over the years I have seen grown men go to the gym, change into workout clothes, then drink coffee, read the paper, change back into street clothes and leave. Really? Why?

“they are dead before their so-called conversion and had died again by virtue of their apostasy.” . . . “no one expects fruit from uprooted trees.”[1]

5. “. . . wild waves of the sea, casting up the foam of their own shame;. . .” When the waves give a big display it stirs up sea floor, which does several sad things. 1) The big waves and tempestuous sea make navigation difficult. When leaders or church members cause trouble actually following the will of the Lord get very difficult. 2) Things have to be abandoned from the ship in order to stay afloat. When storms comes into the church leaders have to focus on keep the boat afloat instead of future destinations. Ministry in the church and any forward momentum stops until the storm passes. 3) Lives could even be lost from the storm. When storms hit churches, people jump ship and swim to the nearest ship that looks safe. There are also some immature Christians that give up on the church because of the infighting and hypocrisy they see. But what they really see is Satan using an apostate to cause dissension and conflict within the church (a tare among wheat).

But what is left behind from such a display? The foam on the shore is corrupted from the churning of the ocean floor’s bottom. Isaiah 57:20 “But the wicked are like the tossing sea; for it cannot be quiet, and its waters toss up mire and dirt.” What is left behind from the huge display from these people and their trouble making is hollow grimy foam left everywhere. This is their shame. As a person they have nothing to show for their lives but storms and hollow deposits wherever they went.

6. “. . . wandering stars, for whom the gloom of utter darkness has been reserved forever.” Stars are supposed to be predictable. If you are on the ocean your life depends on being able to look at the sky and base your direction and course from the stars. They are your only “landmarks.” But if those stars move in an unpredictable manner then they lead others to lostness and despair. Those that follow these false teachers are led to destruction.

Hell is described as these leader’s (and false congregants) ultimate destination. They lead others into destruction and cause unknown damage to the church and their ultimate destination is “gloom and darkness.” This gives little comfort to those leaders who have sought to lead a church in a godly manner only to have these false teachers and “believers” come in and cause damage and even death. The bride of Christ is fragile but she is resilient.


[1] Thomas Schreiner ed., The New American Commentary, 1, 2 Peter, Jude, vol. 37 (Nashville, Tennessee; Broadman and Holman) p. 467

Miracle League of Valdosta – Inaugural Game 2014

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Noah Davis and Myles Kincaid

This past week I had the privilege of working with some amazing volunteers and people with special needs. The atmosphere of the evening was one of cooperation, serving others, and good natured fun.

For the special needs community that showed up on Tuesday night there was no sense of competition, and something interesting happens when it is removed. There was no arguing, yelling, or complaining. There were uniforms and team designations, so yes there was a certain degree of pretending to compete with one-another. But there was no heart felt competition. Instead, the focus was on something different entirely. So when we allow others who may be different from us to enter our small world we can learn and grow as a person. Here are some things that I was reminded of on Tuesday.

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What the Special Needs Community Can Teach Everyone 

1) It’s “ok” to let others help you. Honestly, this is a difficult one for me. Pride in my heart says, “I can do this (life) all by myself.” But the truth is we are all broken, damaged, and hurting. It is only now that I am almost forty that I am willing to say that sometimes, I need help. My initial concern is that you may think that I am “weak.” But I have also grown to care less what others may think.

Tuesday night showed me that when you help someone you are blessed, and when others help you, you are blessed. Those who were playing were constantly encouraging others on their team (and the other team), and helping where they could. But when it came time for them to go to bat, and their wheelchair needed pushing onto the field they didn’t resist someone helping them get to the batter’s box. Why do we resist when someone comes along beside us and says, “let me help?” P-R-I-D-E, and it comes right before we make a big fall. The sooner we learn that we are designed by God to live life with people the sooner we discover contentment. That “living life” means that sometimes we are the helper, and sometimes we are helped by others.

2) It’s not always about keep score. We are constantly told by our society to strive to be the best, come in first place, or win the grand prize. And yes, we should do our very best, but Tuesday evening reminded me that sometimes life is about just being in the game, living in the moment, and enjoying those around you. Instead of focusing on a trophy, that next step in your life, the next finish line, or who you are going to beat; take a moment to just “be.”

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Katie Johnson and Amy Shiver

Enjoy the sun on your face in the outfield, or clap for another who is at bat. Just have fun right now — it’s ok to occasionally forget about striving to be the best. On Tuesday night they didn’t count strikes, or balls, or bad pitches (they didn’t even keep score). It was all about encouraging others to do their best and making sure they had a good time. There was one batter who ran around the bases before he hit the ball, and then hit the ball, and ran the wrong way. So sometimes, it’s not even about following the rules.

3) Everyone brings a special gift to the game. I honestly don’t think that those on the field, in the uniforms, had a thought of how they were better at something than someone else. I don’t believe that they ranked themselves in some kind of “pecking order.” They didn’t seem to compare themselves to others. How wonderful it must be to not have to constantly feel like you need to impress someone with your “talents” or prove that you should be apart of the team. The players were apart of the team (that’s just how it was) and they played the game (period).

But what they brought to the game was very special. They brought joy, a spirit of unconditional love, and support to fellow players.  I am looking forward to the other three games of the season, and to seeing what else I can learn from this special community of people.

Click here to see pictures of the Miracle League of Valdosta.

Click here to visit the Miracle League of Valdosta Facebook page.

Hannah-Grace’s Ear Piercing

I told Hannah-Grace that she could have her ears pierced when she turned nine, and after almost a year of stalling and excuses we ended up at the mall weeks before her tenth birthday. She went from joyful exuberance, to looks of terror. I think she is glad that we did this, but as her father I only see it as a milestone toward her growing up. I often find it hard to balance holding on and letting go. The Lord has blessed me with a wonderful daughter and I am so glad to be on this journey together with her.

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